verb – to act dishonestly or unfairly
Is this a deal breaker? Or is it something that’s no big deal?
In the wake of the Ashley Madison drama…I’m curious. A few weeks ago, I heard that hackers wanted to reveal the personal info of about 37 million users. 37 million people who are currently or were previously looking for an affair. What the fuck?!
We’re going to hell in a hand basket. You mean to tell me that instead of cheating like normal people…we’re paying good money to sign up, create profiles and search for others that want to step out on their relationships. Really?!
Before I get started, let me explain what I mean when I say cheat like normal people. Cheating in its own right is wrong…there’s no excuse for cheating on your significant other. But usually, people cheat with co-workers, friends, strangers they meet at a bar, etc. Why would someone take the time to search through hundreds of profiles?
Maybe it was the fact that these people were married also? What happened to morals and self-respect? Why are married people searching online for a booty call? Is the sanctity of marriage no longer sacred? Why bother getting married at all?
Which brings me to this burning question: Why do some people cheat? Is it because they feel unloved or unappreciated in their current relationship? Is it the thrill of the chase? Loneliness?….Nope…it’s a choice. How can you disrespect your partner that much? It can’t be fun to run around in a secret relationship. What will you tell your kids when they come home crying because such and such cheated on them? Can you honestly say the person who hurt them was wrong when you are exactly like that person? A bonafide cheater….
If you’re that unhappy….just fucking leave. Yes, it really is that simple. Is it really worth all the lying and sneaking around? It doesn’t matter what type of affair it is. Emotional or physical. If you have to hide something…it’s wrong. Pure and simple. What happens next? They either find out or they don’t. You either fess up or you don’t. If they decide to stick by you, you should spend the rest of your miserable life making it up to them. Please don’t make them feel like it was their fault. Because it was your choice.
To me, cheaters are a sad excuse for human beings. Trusting others is a luxury that has become a commodity in this day and age. If you can’t trust the person you vowed to love forever….what’s left?
So yes…for me, cheating is a deal breaker. I have kids to raise. I will not raise them to think that cheating is ok or to accept that kind of behavior from their significant other. Self-respect is a big deal. You decide what’s best for you.
xoxo ~ D