verb – to act dishonestly or unfairly

Is this a deal breaker?  Or is it something that’s no big deal?

IMG_3974In the wake of the Ashley Madison drama…I’m curious.  A few weeks ago, I heard that hackers wanted to reveal the personal info of about 37 million users.  37 million people who are currently or were previously looking for an affair. What the fuck?!

We’re going to hell in a hand basket.  You mean to tell me that instead of cheating like normal people…we’re paying good money to sign up, create profiles and search for others that want to step out on their relationships.  Really?!

Before I get started, let me explain what I mean when I say cheat like normal people.  Cheating in its own right is wrong…there’s no excuse for cheating on your significant other.  But usually, people cheat with co-workers, friends, strangers they meet at a bar, etc.  Why would someone take the time to search through hundreds of profiles?

Maybe it was the fact that these people were married also?  What happened to morals and self-respect?  Why are married people searching online for a booty call?  Is the sanctity of marriage no longer sacred?  Why bother getting married at all?

Which brings me to this burning question:  Why do some people cheat?  Is it because they feel unloved or unappreciated in their current relationship?  Is it the thrill of the chase?  Loneliness?….Nope…it’s a choice.  How can you disrespect your partner that much?  It can’t be fun to run around in a secret relationship. What will you tell your kids when they come home crying because such and such cheated on them?  Can you honestly say the person who hurt them was wrong when you are exactly like that person?  A bonafide cheater…. 



If you’re that unhappy….just fucking leave.  Yes, it really is that simple.  Is it really worth all the lying and sneaking around?  It doesn’t matter what type of affair it is.  Emotional or physical.  If you have to hide something…it’s wrong. Pure and simple.  What happens next?  They either find out or they don’t.  You either fess up or you don’t.  If they decide to stick by you, you should spend the rest of your miserable life making it up to them.  Please don’t make them feel like it was their fault.  Because it was your choice.

To me, cheaters are a sad excuse for human beings.   Trusting others is a luxury that has become a commodity in this day and age.  If you can’t trust the person you vowed to love forever….what’s left?

So yes…for me, cheating is a deal breaker.  I have kids to raise.  I will not raise them to think that cheating is ok  or to accept that kind of behavior from their significant other.  Self-respect is a big deal. You decide what’s best for you.

xoxo ~ D

10 Responses to “Cheaters”

  1. Sheena NeilSeptember 20, 2015 at 10:05 pm #

    Well said Doris!
    I say the same thing, if you aren’t happy than leave before you go and cheat. I guess some people don’t care enough and do it more for the thrill, then they get caught and are labelled a cheater. Not worth it, I say.
    On another note, I have nominated you for the LIEBSTER AWARD 🙂
    Please head on over to my site for the next steps, best of luck 🙂

    • Doris MartinSeptember 21, 2015 at 5:56 am #

      Definitely not worth cheating & losing everything…

      Thank you so much for the nomination!! ~ D

  2. LindaNovember 2, 2015 at 12:15 pm #

    Well said, Doris. And I completely agree with you…it’s a choice, it’s a commitment you made to your significant other and yourself.

    • Doris MartinNovember 2, 2015 at 2:48 pm #

      Thx!! I completely agree

  3. KassiNovember 2, 2015 at 12:21 pm #

    Deal breaker for sure. If I’m not enough for you now I never will be and I will find someone who realizes my worth.

    • Doris MartinNovember 2, 2015 at 2:46 pm #

      Definitely one of my deal breakers

  4. KristinaNovember 3, 2015 at 3:30 pm #

    So much of a deal breaker. I was cheated on by an ex and it was awful. It took years for me to regain my trust for men and allow myself to fall in love. It took a lot of faith in myself and the man I “let in” Stopping by from the Blogger Life FB page.

    • Doris MartinNovember 3, 2015 at 9:13 pm #

      Thx for sharing! So sorry that happened to you. Going through these things make us a little bit stronger…

  5. vei4346February 14, 2016 at 9:56 pm #

    Cheating is a choice! He knew the consequences beforehand and your relationship was at stake. However, he couldn’t resist. Lack of self control is the real issue.

    • Doris MartinFebruary 17, 2016 at 9:01 am #

      Yes I agree. Not only is it lack of self control…but it’s a character issue as well.

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