Ahhh…..the dreaded word!
If you’re single with kids, dating can sometimes be difficult. So how do you go about it? Do you sign up for one of those dating sites and hope not to meet a “crazy” person? Can you rely on friends and family to introduce you to your soul mate? Or, do you go to the bar alone and hope not to get those “sympathy” stares from couples?
Since I’m in my 30’s….do I still have the energy to play those pre-relationship games???
So the other day I decided to go out of my comfort zone and attend a singles club meeting at church. I mean why not try to be around people that have the same religious beliefs as I? The ad said the club was for singles between the age range of 35-59. No problem….here goes nothing! Make-up,check; dressed nicely, check; killer shoes, check.
I walk in the door to find the following: 2 men that had to be at least 70 with horrible comb overs and 3 women (2 in their 60’s and 1 in her early 50’s). I was told by each of them, that they had been there for a while (obviously). That this group wasn’t about relationships, but rather a close knit family…WTF….Seriously?! I made sure I didn’t look a hot mess for a bunch of seniors?!?! Is this all there is? Am I doomed to be a part of a senior citizen’s group?!? Should I be looking for rich, over 70 with a great retirement package??
Dating sites scare the living daylights out of me. What happened to the way it used to be? If someone likes you, they ask you out…period. Why do we have to play the dating games? Do I need to wear a sign on my chest that says: Yes, I’m available!!! (arrows pointing) Single woman coming through! (red lights flashing) And when friends try to pacify you (because they’re in a relationship/married etc.) and say things like I have someone I want you to meet…but they never make the time to introduce you. Do they really think that’s fair?
And then I start to wonder if my standards are too high. Basically I don’t want to have to deal with the BS…I already divorced it!!!
So I’ve learned to just take it one day at a time. Maybe, just maybe, love will find me again. If not, that’s ok….I’ve got the single life under control.
xoxo ~ D