Ok….so what if there isn’t a happy ending? <insert surprised emoji here>

Then what?

So I was talking to a good friend of mine the other day.  She’s single and dating as well.  Someone I like to bounce ideas off of and of course she’s one of the first to get the scoop on any dates I’ve been on.

<enough background>

Anywho, after yet another disastrous meet and greet, I call her and I’m like what if there’s a happily never after?

Like is all this getting to know you stuff just a bunch of bullshit?

Are we just wading through a sea of unpotential life partners just for kicks and giggles?

Are we dating just to feel like we matter to someone other than ourselves??

Or are we just preparing ourselves for that elusive “one” who doesn’t exist???

Inquiring minds need to know…..



Being single these days is like being branded with a scarlett letter.

Everyone has an opinion about everything <rolls eyes>.   I’m serious.

Before I go on a date, the convo, with friends, usually goes something like this:

Me: “sooo I have a date later, I’ll let you know where to start the first 48…”

Aaaannnd a myriad of questions usually follow:

Them: “Where are you going?” “Where did you meet him?” “How long have you guys been talking?” “What are you wearing?” “Are you excited?”


Am I excited?

Should I be?

I know, I know…..I should.  But the truth is, I’m not.

I’m exhausted.

I’m tired of answering the same questions. I’m tired of having to “sell” myself. I’m tired of having to dodge the assholes that just want to get in my pants. <I don’t sleep around remember> and I’m tired of playing the game.

I feel like I’m running on one of those hamster wheels in my stilettos….and I haaattteee running….

Have I felt butterflies?

Only once.

After all this time, only one can make me stop in my tracks.

<and no ~ you don’t know who it is so please don’t assume>

Could it end up working? Possibly….but that’s a conversation for another day.


So yeah…that Cinderella ending is looking pretty grim at this point.

~ but all she asked for was a cute outfit and a night out on the town ~

Hmmm, maybe I’ve already met Prince Charming.

Maybe I’m right where I’m supposed to be.

Maybe, just maybe, this hamster wheel is slowing down.

And my stilettos will finally be where they belong…….on solid ground

Forever an optimist,


xo ~ D



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10 Responses to “#happilyneverafter”

  1. MichelleSeptember 29, 2016 at 5:12 pm #

    Great post. I think sometimes we create our own happily never after. Never truly letting go of who we think should “be the one.” Missing the ones who are right in front of our face. Its not about who we want but who we need. Sounds like you still have your eyes set on someone. Maybe the 20 years guy? He should be far out of your mind by now! Are you crazy chica?! Maybe someone you work with? Someone you’ve dated in the last couple months? Who knows. But, we will be watching to find out! Wishing you the best.

    • Doris MartinSeptember 29, 2016 at 10:40 pm #

      Thank you so much!! Yes it’s completely ok to create our own happily ever after. As for who I’ve got my mind on….not telling just yet. But I can say that 20 years guy is sooo not on my radar (I’d have to be more than crazy to want to bring that train wreck out of the tunnel!!)
      ~ there’s so much more to come

      xo ~ D

  2. whereispriyanka travel blogSeptember 30, 2016 at 9:30 pm #

    Such a great post! I agree with you and I also think that many times we miss the person just next to us who tries a lot to keep up happy and instead run behind someone else who will never ne ours! Accepting the reality is indeed very hard! 🙂

    • Doris MartinOctober 7, 2016 at 6:15 pm #

      Thank you!!! Reality can be hard to accept…but we have to do it if we want to get ahead. xo ~ D

  3. ElizabethOctober 1, 2016 at 1:31 am #

    I think love finds you when you stop looking for it. Dating, actively seeking a partner… I don’t know… I’m just glad I don’t have to do it any more! I found my husband when I had made a conscious choice NOT to date, and not to look any more for Mr. Right. Perhaps start doing things you enjoy just because YOU enjoy them, and maybe someone else will be doing the same thing and one thing will lead to another. Good luck, and enjoy being single! So much freedom! 😀

    • Doris MartinOctober 7, 2016 at 6:19 pm #

      Thank you!! I completely agree. I do things for myself all the time. I’ll definitely continue to enjoy the single life until…
      xo ~ D

  4. Martine - MUOctober 5, 2016 at 1:59 pm #

    This was a nice piece! Indeed we are always trying to please the “should be” from what is expected instead of the “Me” from our true thoughts and feelings. I like how you are real with your emotions and not willing to compromise them. Encouraging you on your journey and wishing you well! Much love ❤️

    • Doris MartinOctober 7, 2016 at 6:22 pm #

      Awww thx!! I always wear my heart on my sleeve and never hold anything back 🙂 Not sure if that’s a good thing or a bad thing…but at least I’m always honest…
      xo ~ D

  5. JoseyphinaNovember 23, 2016 at 1:49 pm #

    Interesting read. Enjoyed reading to the end.

    • Doris MartinNovember 23, 2016 at 10:59 pm #

      Thank you so much!
      xo ~ D

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