Why is it ok to trash someone? Why should I apologize for my feelings? Did they offend you? 




Yup, that’s the only nice word I could come up with.

You’re a bully.

A coward.

A hater.

You think if you harass me enough, I’ll run and hide under a rock.

You hope I’m in a corner licking my wounds.

~ that’s so not the case sweetheart ~

So what do you do?

I know that the best way to deal with these idiots is to just ignore them.  Basically you’re supposed to walk around like nothing evah happened.  Seriously??

Why do we have to hear that forgive and forget bullshit? Is that really the best policy?  Or do we do it because we don’t want the bullies to feel bad about what they’re doing?  I mean think about it.  If someone goes out of their way to make you feel like shit….should you just forgive them and let it go??

Fuck that.  I’m gonna remember how you fucking made me feel….forevah.

Forevah evah???


I mean, you seeked me out on your own accord.  No one put a gun to your head.  No one told you it would be a good idea.  No one “made you do it”.

It was a choice. A choice you made.

Was it based on whichever insecurity was taking over your brain at that moment?  Probably….but that still doesn’t excuse the fact that it was done. Oh I’m sorry, that was wrong.  I should have said it doesn’t excuse the fact that it’s still going on.

And frankly, it bores me.  It really does.  Because it doesn’t matter what I say or what I do. That warped brain of yours will always think it’s directed at you.  As if you are the only person that exists in my world.  That I live and breath to piss you off.

Get the fuck out of here with that bullshit.

You don’t matter….and you never did and you never will.

You can troll all of my social media accounts every day if you want.

I’m sure you would tap my phone if you could.  Or maybe even follow me around?


How is this ok?? I’m trying to figure out what reasoning I could come up with to make this kind of behavior acceptable.

Alright, alright.  I apologize.  I went off on my own tangent there for a little bit.

But back at the task at hand.  I don’t believe that we should ever forget these things.  Those memories will keep us from doing the same stupid shit over and over again.  Right?  Like we shouldn’t condone bullying.  So if we don’t condone it, why should we forget it?

We’re all human.  There will always be something that gets under our skin.  But it’s how we deal with it that’s the issue.  You don’t have to take your personal feelings out on someone else.  Don’t get me wrong, you could be really hurt about something.  But you don’t have to act a fool.  You don’t have to make others feel bad in order to make yourself feel better.  If that’s the route you decide to go, it now becomes a character issue.  It’s not about being insecure.  If you make it your business to hurt others on purpose, there’s something wrong with you.  Not them.

You should go about your business and do you.  I’ve learned, through experience, that you will never make these people happy.  Don’t let their miserable vibe infect you.  Misery loves company, but you don’t have to join them.

Be happy.  Love hard, make memories, and move on.  Laugh along the way.  Continue to show them you will always choose to remain….#unbothered.


xo ~ D


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3 Responses to “#Hater”

  1. A BALTIMOREFebruary 18, 2016 at 8:49 am #

    I needed to be reminded, misery loves company but you don’t have to join them!!

  2. Frank PriegueFebruary 18, 2016 at 8:58 am #

    The tone of your post tells me someone got under your skin and continues to piss you off. It happens, we all have someone who pisses us off for whatever reason. That’s the way life is. The best way to approach it is pay them no mind but never forget. Any energy spent on pissed off Facebook posts, Tweets Blog posts etc, just givesm them more energy. Who needs negative energy?

    • Doris MartinFebruary 18, 2016 at 9:03 am #

      Thank you! I purposely set the tone that way to show that these feelings are real for everyone and we shouldn’t be ashamed to have them. We do have a choice as to if we’d like to entertain the drama or not ~ D

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