It’s beginning to look a lot like…..What exactly?? Christmas? New Years? How about ‘Tis the season to pity single people.
I’ve never quite understood why we treat singles differently during the holidays. This has always been my favorite time of year. Spending time with family and friends, dinner parties, happy hours, shopping, gift giving…..and Santa!!
Don’t get me wrong though…the Ghosts of Christmas Past haunt me every year.
There are days that go by when I don’t think about you at all. Then, there are some when I see your face around every corner I turn. That smile, those eyes…enough to turn my insides into Jell-o. My God. What is it about this time of year that makes me think about us? Maybe it’s the memories we’ll always have. The laughs we shared….the kisses….the…..~ ok ok….I should get off that train of thought.
Winters are perfect for when you’re coupled up. Ice skating dates, drinking hot chocolate while snuggled up and watching a movie…So what do you do during this time of year when you’re single?
Let the pity party begin….
Just because I’m single, doesn’t mean my mascara’s running. Trust me when I say I’m not spending my time thinking “woe is me” or “why am I alone”. Like that’s not even in my vocabulary. You don’t have to stare if you see me at the movies or at a bar alone. I’m pretty comfortable with where I am in my life right now. I’m not at home pining over a past relationship or crying into my Moscato all while shoveling ice cream down my throat.
For me, the holidays are about spending time with the people you love and those that make you happy. Family and friends are always at the top of my list. But there’s something about this time of year that makes those memories feel even more special. I don’t mean to sound sappy, but I do find myself smiling more than usual.
So here are a few tips that I hope will get you through those awkward moments.
1: Holiday Parties: Sure a lot of people will bring dates/significant others. But that doesn’t mean you can’t go solo and enjoy yourself. Dress up and put on some makeup. A great heel is always a plus. Let yourself have fun!
2: Family Pressure: This is a big one. Are you bringing anyone? When are you going to settle down? I’m sure you’ve heard these before. You should’ve found someone by now….blah, blah, blah. I totally ignore these. There’s no need to get offended or upset. Your family really does want what’s best for you. But you actually have to do things in your own time.
3: Memories of the Past: I’m not going to tell you that these won’t feel like a knife going through your body. But if something reminds you of the past, that’s ok. Memories are part of what make us who we are. Right?? Will it hurt? Probably. But if you shove those feelings deep down into the pit, you’ll never know how to deal with them.
If all else fails….just smile. If you don’t want to answer the awkward question, change the subject. Take the time to celebrate. Cherish every moment. Not just during the holidays, but every day.
xo ~ D