What do we do with those who are emotionally unavailable?
If it were up to me…..I’d be like “bye Felicia”
But so many hang around.
For sex? companionship? social media status? afraid to be alone?
This totally goes both ways. Men and women can play the same role depending on the situation.
I’m not here to preach about why you should stay and why you shouldn’t.
You have to do what’s best for you.
I’m just here to shed some light in order for you to spot the bullshit.
So what are the signs?
1 ~ Everything’s a Secret….
Don’t get me wrong. If you want the same thing, then go for it. But just know what you’re signing up for. There’ll be no dinner with friends, no movies, no family outings. Your life together is invisible. Period.
2 ~ No Intimacy…..
Trust me when I say I’m a fan of mind blowing sex but if you add intimacy it’s amehzing!!! The closeness you feel when you become one with that special person is <insert heart emoji here> But if you’re cool with just being in an FWB situation then no judgement. You shouldn’t judge yourself either because these are choices we make based on the situation that we’re in.
3 ~ No Phone Calls – Just Texts…..
I’m a texter. Unequivocally. But I do love a late night phone call. Something about the last minute phone call before you go to sleep makes me all warm and fuzzy inside. But that shit ain’t happening if they’re not available emotionally. You’ll be the one texting first to say “heyyyy” or they’ll just text you at 11pm to say “come over”. Which you will because you actually think they want to see you. But all they really want is to get laid.
4 ~ Games….
Sooooo many to play. Which one should I choose? lol You literally have to know what’s going on in order to play well. But the emotional roller coaster can be a motherfucker. Pay attention to what the hell is going on.
5 ~ Feelings….
Don’t catch ’em. There’s no love involved here. You’re not their top priority and you shouldn’t make them yours. You can’t be DTF whenever they hit you up and then create an LTR in your head. That’s not how it works. You have to leave them in the category they put you in because that’s the category you CHOSE to be in.
At the end of the day, if the situation makes you unhappy…LEAVE
There’s no reason for you to be doom and gloom all day long over someone who probably isn’t even thinking about you.
Trust me when I say it’s not worth it.
You can be your amazing self with someone who’s ready…..
xoxo ~ D