No, not that one. Marriage is a LONG way off for me. But how do you take the plunge in order to take risks? Do you just throw all common sense to the side and go for it? Or, do you exhibit a sense of caution before jumping off the cliff?
Why are women perceived as bitches if we go after what we want? Why is confidence often perceived as conceitment? Why are we considered whores if we have sex on the first date, but men are considered studs? I’m so over the double standard!
Holy moly. Sometimes I feel like the universe wants me to aplogize for going after what I want. Like, it wants me to sit back and watch everyone else get ahead.
In the business world, we have to climb all sorts of ladders in order to prove we can work just as hard as any man. Once we prove that, we’re paid less. Then, we’re expected to do that job extremely well along with….additional secretarial “girl” work. And if we so happen to request help…no bueno. Should we walk around singing “move bitch get out the way” like Luda? Taking the risks needed to get ahead?
In relationships, if we sleep around we’re whores. If we don’t, we’re prudes. A guy I was dating once told me that if he sleeps with a girl right away, she’s not the one he’ll marry. Really?! But if he waits during her “no sex” time period and they finally do the deed, he might stick around for a few months (if it was any good) and then dump her anyway. Why? Because there’s always another floozie ready & willing to give it up. So is it wrong to have sex early on because we want to? I mean, women have needs too. Sometimes we want to have no holds barred, commitment free, drunk sex with Mr. Right Now and not with Mr. LTR.
Why do some women think you want their man if you so much as smile at them when you’re walking by? No boo….are you that insecure? If I wanted him….you’d know. Women are supposed to support each other….not tear each other down. Being a strong, independent woman is exhausting enough on its own. Now I have to defend myself just because? What’s that about?
So what’s a girl to do? Do we go after that promotion? Should you continue to apply for the job you know they don’t want to hire you for? Should you continue to actually respect yourself while making decisions regarding relationships? Should you continue to put yourself out there?
Absolutely. I do me every day without regret. If you don’t like it: sucks for you. Don’t continue to make excuses for your decisions. You have to do what you think is best at the time. At the end of the day, I want to make a difference in someone’s life. I know I’m destined to do great things. The consequences for my actions are only between two people: Me & God. So….will I take the plunge??? You bet your ass I will!! I know I have a safety net…..do you????
xoxo ~ D